First, do no harm - This is not the time to finish that argument with your spouse, lash out at anyone, or confront a colleague. Just wait.
Let time do its job - Painful emotions are temporary because they pull us into a regressed state, we get deceived by the childhood feeling that “this is forever.”
Ask for help - Even good parents get assistance for their children. Talk openly to trusted friends or to a therapist.
Take a warm bath and have a cup of chamomile tea- It’s a one-two punch.
Dance with yourself - Put on your favorite dance song and move—large, active movements—even if you’re not in the mood. Watch what animals do after a fight or a scare. They shake it off. Dancing is a powerful way to shake off distress.
Activate your self-soothing system - Gently patting your cheek with your hand or lightly rubbing your chest over your heart.
Sit by a fireplace or outdoor fire-pit - Enjoy watching the flames and the warmth.
Take good care of yourself, be kind and gentle during this time. Please be sure to reach out if you need a little help. We're here with workshops, and therapy available.
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