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Spicing Up Your Sex Life!

Posted by Deborah Fox, M.S.W. on Feb 13, 2020 3:10:22 PM

Sex - where did it go and why? 

What the heck happened to us?? We used to have sex so much more, and now . . . . 

The sexual connection in many a relationship is the first to founder under any stress or tension. Couples find themselves bickering. They enjoy each other's company less. And they don't make the connection that their lackluster sexual activity is a huge part of the problem.

Many people with a healthy level of desire find themselves more irritable and prone to temper flare-ups when they’re sexually frustrated. A malaise sets in, having an insidious effect on the overall relationship. At best, relationships become more like business partnerships. Or one in which partners are often in each other's presence, but not connecting with each other.

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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Healthy Connection, Male Sexuality, Emotional Intelligence, Imago Relationships, Sexual Desire, Sexual Trauma, Erotic Language, Sexual Communication, Emotional Connection, Female Sexuality, Self Love, Getting the Love you Want

Procrastination - Mind the Gap

Posted by Michelle Bohls, LMFT, EMDR, CGP on Jan 23, 2020 5:26:07 PM

Procrastination has become a dirty word in an economy built on productivity, product life cycles, and publication deadlines. We may admit we procrastinate in that flippant, self-deprecating way without filling in too many of the ugly details. 

Procrastinating on really big projects like fixing up the house makes sense or a dissertation. That is perfecting understandable, but when we’re struggling to clean the cat box, get our kid to the dentist, or change the oil in our car --- not so much. 

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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Self Care, Emotional Intelligence, Imago Relationships, Self Love, Self Esteem, personalgrowth

Are You Saying Yes to Life?

Posted by Josh Gressel, Ph.D. on Jan 16, 2020 4:12:20 PM

Look more carefully at your default responses to life's invitations for growth.

My best guess is that 99% of you reading this will answer the question of this title in the affirmative.  Of course, I’m saying “yes” to life. Why wouldn’t I?

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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Appreciation and Gratitude, Eliminating Negativity, Forgiveness, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Imago Relationships, Emotional Connection, Defense Mechanisms, personalgrowth

Mind Reading in Relationships - When Is It a Good Idea?

Posted by Stacy Bremner, MA, RP on Dec 28, 2019 12:00:00 AM

If you want to improve your relationship, one cardinal rule to follow is - don’t expect your partner to read your mind. This seems obvious, right? But many people operate this way, in an unconscious manner, almost daily.   

Why is this a problem? Because most of us fail at mind-reading (or fail to succeed consistently) which leads to lots of problems:

  • Misunderstandings
  • Disappointments 
  • Resentment 
  • Stress
  • Disconnection 

Expecting our partner (or parent, child or friend) to meet our needs without even asking, can also keep us personally unaware of our expectations and prevent important conversations about each other’s ideas, feelings, wants, needs and priorities.

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Topics: Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Imago Relationships, therapy, Couples Retreat, Getting the Love you Want

Discovering We're Like Our Parents May Not Be So Bad

Posted by Josh Gressel, Ph.D. on Dec 14, 2019 7:00:00 AM

How to cope with the realization that you may be like the parent who hurt you.

Are you like the person who most hurt you growing up?

Most of us carry some form of injury from one or both of our parents.  For some of us it’s on the more serious side of the continuum: We were physically abused, sexually molested, or seriously neglected.

For others, the injury was more subtle but left its mark nevertheless, taking root in our internal narrative and causing us to make internal oaths not to be like one or the other of our parents when we grow up and have children ourselves.

Our parents were either too strict or not strict enough, they overcontrolled us or didn’t seem to pay attention to what we needed, they lived in their own private world or tried to live their lives through us.

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Family Culture, Healthy Relationships, Happy Relationships, Appreciation and Gratitude, Eliminating Negativity, Forgiveness, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Imago Relationships, Emotional Connection, family therapy

Words Can Kill Relationships - 5 Words and Phrases to Avoid

Posted by Norene Gonsiewski, LCSW on Nov 23, 2019 7:00:00 AM

Sticks and stones may break your bones, but let’s be honest: words hurt, too.

Even after years of a marriage where you and your partner are completely open and honest with each other, it’s still wise to set some boundaries and refrain from using words and phrases that may hurt your relationship.

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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Marriage Issues, Eliminating Negativity, Couples Therapy, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Imago Relationships, Relationship Vision, Intentional Dialogue, Emotional Connection, couples workshop

Monthly Digest August 2019: Imago Relationships Blog and Relationship Tips

Posted by Imago Relationships North America on Sep 1, 2019 11:11:00 AM

Here's your Monthly Digest packed full of amazing Imago Relationship Blog posts and Relationship Tips.

Be sure to subscribe to both and share!

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Healthy Relationships, Conflict Resolution, Happy Relationships, Emotional Safety, Appreciation and Gratitude, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Self Care, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Human Connection, Mental Health, Mental Fitness, Emotional Intelligence, Monthly Digest, Imago Relationships, Tidying Up, Erotic Intelligence, Sexual Desire, Erotic Language, Sexual Communication, Emotional Connection, Adulting, Self Trust, Self Love, Celebrate the Differences, Defense Mechanisms, Being Humble

Monthly Digest July 2019: Imago Relationships Blog and Relationship Tips

Posted by Imago Relationships North America on Aug 4, 2019 11:11:00 AM

Here's your Monthly Digest packed full of the amazing Imago Relationship Blog posts and Relationship Tips.

Be sure to subscribe to both and share!

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Topics: Sex Therapy, Managing Conflict, Family Mission Statement, Family Culture, Healthy Relationships, Conflict Resolution, Happy Relationships, Marriage Issues, Breaking Habits, Bad Breakup, Emotional Safety, Appreciation and Gratitude, Eliminating Negativity, Invisible Abuse, Anxiety, Finding Love Again, Forgiveness, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Recovering from an Affair, Self Care, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Human Connection, Mental Health, Male Sexuality, Mental Fitness, Gender Bias, Sexual Fluidity, Digital Emotional Intelligence, Emotional Intelligence, Monthly Digest, Imago Relationships

Money Issues in Your Relationship - 10 Reasons We Fight

Posted by Imago Relationships North America on Jun 23, 2019 4:47:36 PM

Did you know that money is one of the top areas of conflict for couples? Maybe not, but when you think about money issues couples experience doesn't it seem like the problem is simply about savings vs. spending?

Well, it's not always easy when we talk about money with our loved ones. In fact, there are 10 top areas where couples fight over money

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Topics: Money Issues, Managing Conflict, Money Fights, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Imago Relationships, Adulting, Defense Mechanisms, couples workshop, therapy

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