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Monthly Digest: Imago Relationships Blog and Relationship Tips

Posted by Imago Relationships North America on Aug 4, 2019 11:11:00 AM

Here's your Monthly Digest packed full of the amazing Imago Relationship Blog posts and Relationship Tips.

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Topics: Sex Therapy, Managing Conflict, Family Mission Statement, Family Culture, Healthy Relationships, Conflict Resolution, Happy Relationships, Marriage Issues, Breaking Habits, Bad Breakup, Emotional Safety, Appreciation and Gratitude, Eliminating Negativity, Invisible Abuse, Anxiety, Finding Love Again, Forgiveness, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Recovering from an Affair, Self Care, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Human Connection, Mental Health, Male Sexuality, Mental Fitness, Gender Bias, Sexual Fluidity, Digital Emotional Intelligence, Emotional Intelligence, Monthly Digest, Imago Relationships

10 Myths About Male Sexuality

Posted by Joe Kort, Ph.D., LMSW on Jul 28, 2019 11:11:00 AM

As a sex therapist, I focus a lot in the area of male sexuality with patients as well as teaching classes online and around the United States. In my travels, I’ve come to realize that we need to take a deeper look at male sexuality and challenge gender bias against men and stop sexual shaming. In my experience, by helping men and women understand the landscape of male sexuality, it can reduce the amount of conflict in relationships.

In the last few years, there’s been a growing movement among sex therapists and researchers to really understand men’s sexuality—not what it’s “supposed to be,” but rather how it manifests, where its roots lie, and how to deal with the conflicts it presents, not only in therapy with men, but with couples too.

Therapists have long recognized that women are further ahead of men in terms of emotional access and vocabulary, and historically we’ve tried to help men catch up to women in this regard. We are now beginning to ask how we can help women understand where it is their men are today vs. waiting for them to catch up. So, here are 10 myths about men’s sexuality that will offer some alternative views.

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Topics: Sex Therapy, Sex Myths, Managing Conflict, Healthy Relationships, Healthy Connection, Male Sexuality, Gender Bias, Sexual Fluidity

Are You Truly Connecting with Your Partner?

Posted by Hayley Hoffman, MA, LGPC on Jul 21, 2019 11:11:00 AM
As an Imago therapist, I often see couples struggling in the area of connecting vs. communicating with each other. Communication can be very different from connecting with your loved ones if you are not in a conscious relationship.
 
In a recent conversation I had with Harville Hendrix he shared his insight on the topic. I understood Harville to say that couples come into therapy hoping to improve their communication skills when what they  really want is to improve their connecting skills.
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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Human Connection

Recovering from an Affair

Posted by Jeannie Ingram, LPC-MHSP on Jul 14, 2019 11:11:00 AM

Is anything more painful than betrayal? Perhaps not, at least on the topic of relationships. Though common (one fourth to one half, depending on who you ask), this type of rupture is excruciating, and often fatal to the relationship.

Most often, the betrayal seems insurmountable at first. Reactions are understandably strong and absolute; e.g., “I could never be with you again”.  “I will always be angry and resentful”.

Healing and recovering from an affair does take time, but it is possible if both people are willing to do the work. How long it takes depends on a number of variables, but I have found on average that two years is a fair estimate. Obviously, for some, it takes longer, and others dig deep and work it out sooner. Much of it depends on motivation and willingness to listen and understand.

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Topics: Marriage Issues, Finding Love Again, Forgiveness, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Recovering from an Affair

Gratitude is a Choice - Even in Challenging Times

Posted by Dawn Lipthrott, LCSW on Jul 7, 2019 11:39:44 AM

One of the best things you can do for your marriage and for your overall happiness is to actively cultivate an attitude of gratitude. It requires some dedicated focus, but it’s much easier than you think!

Here’s an example why:

Last year we decided to paint our house gray, so we looked at many shades of gray at the store. We even compared all the gray houses in our town, and then one day I noticed the perfect shade of gray on a parked car - so I took a picture! I was relieved and never thought about finding that perfect color again. Yet, my brain took over and for the next two weeks, I somehow noticed 10 gray cars.

The point of the story is that you’ll always find more of what you search for in life, and your brain is very helpful in noticing things you want to pay attention to and looking for evidence to support what you already believe. This action in our brain is called confirmation bias, and it relates to our personal relationships as well.

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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Conflict Resolution, Happy Relationships, Resolve Conflict, Appreciation and Gratitude, Eliminating Negativity

Stop Abusing Your Partner with Negativity

Posted by Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. on Jun 30, 2019 11:11:00 AM

During the time our marriage teetered between renewal and divorce, we were visiting a book store when we happened on a book about how astrology affects relationships. Just for fun, we opened to the page where our two astrological signs intersected. Then we read, “You will destroy your relationship unless you stop the unrelenting negative scrutiny of each other.” We were stunned. And then we laughed. We knew the book had gotten it right.

For a time, we were quiet and separate as we turned our thoughts around those words. That sentence fell like a bombshell because we knew it was true. The more we thought about it, the more we realized we had to stop what we now call the “invisible abuse” of belittling, negating, and undermining each other. We started by trying to be more aware of what we were saying, what words we used. We worked out a plan to monitor ourselves for negative behaviors, and negative thinking. In the beginning, as we tried to stop, we grew to realize our negativity seemed to have a life of its own. We then realized we were addicted to our negativity. This just had to stop.

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Marriage Issues, Appreciation and Gratitude, Eliminating Negativity, Invisible Abuse

Money Issues in Your Relationship - 10 Reasons We Fight

Posted by Imago Relationships North America on Jun 23, 2019 4:47:36 PM

Did you know that money is one of the top areas of conflict for couples? Maybe not, but when you think about money issues couples experience doesn't it seem like the problem is simply about savings vs. spending?

Well, it's not always easy when we talk about money with our loved ones. In fact, there are 10 top areas where couples fight over money

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Topics: Money Issues, Managing Conflict, Money Fights

Resolve Conflict - Divorce-Proof your Marriage in 6 Easy Steps!

Posted by Evie Shafner, LMFT on Jun 16, 2019 11:11:00 AM

There are so many positive suggestions about managing conflict and how to divorce-proof your marriage. As an Imago Relationship therapist for over 25 years, I have seen many marriages go the distance, and there are definitely some key things that the marriages that make it have in common. Here are 6 easy steps on how to resolve conflict and minimize any marriage issues you and your partner may have.

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Resolve Conflict, Marriage Issues

Healthy Relationships - 6 Steps to Create Harmony at Home

Posted by Imago Relationships North America on Jun 9, 2019 11:11:00 AM

What does the word Home mean to you? Does home equate to nurture or love? Is home filled with healthy relationships? Or, is it simply a permanent place where one resides?

We'd like to think of the word home as a place where we feel safe and can lay our head down after a long day at work. Home is a cozy place where we can cuddle up with our loved ones on the couch, where we can laugh and play games, or be nurtured when we are sick. Home is a place where relationships grow stronger! This type of home sounds amazing, right?

But, creating happy relationships can sometimes be difficult in our home environments. What if we don’t have a home as defined above? How do we create a place that truly brings joy, heals and nurtures us as well as our loved ones? Here are 6 tips on creating a home full of peace and harmony today.

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Topics: Family Mission Statement, Family Culture, Healthy Relationships, Conflict Resolution, Happy Relationships