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Are You Saying Yes to Life?

Posted by Josh Gressel, Ph.D. on Jan 16, 2020 4:12:20 PM

Look more carefully at your default responses to life's invitations for growth.

My best guess is that 99% of you reading this will answer the question of this title in the affirmative.  Of course, I’m saying “yes” to life. Why wouldn’t I?

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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Appreciation and Gratitude, Eliminating Negativity, Forgiveness, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Imago Relationships, Emotional Connection, Defense Mechanisms, personalgrowth

Does Your Relationship Need a Rebirth in 2020?

Posted by Aviva Chansky Guttmann, LMSW on Jan 10, 2020 2:03:43 PM

Nature is not the only place to notice rebirth and renewal. We associate the New Year with a fresh start and even a new birth. The new year is a time of expanding boundaries and openness, and since many people around us are equally excited so many things feel just right.

In nature, rebirth is most noticeable in spring. However, we can experience a rebirth in our relationships and a sense of personal identity at any time. We are ever-evolving in our approach to life and as we value changes (and especially as we increasingly value ourselves) our approach to existing and new relationships changes. A new identity and self-concept emerge and this is not static.

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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Conflict Resolution, Happy Relationships, Resolve Conflict, Marriage Issues, Healthy Communication, Imago Relationships, Relationship Vision, Emotional Connection

Monthly Digest December 2019: Imago Relationships Blog and Relationship Tips

Posted by Imago Relationships North America on Jan 4, 2020 2:15:20 PM

Here's your Monthly Digest packed full of amazing Imago Relationship Blog posts and Relationship Tips.

Be sure to Subscribe to both and share the love!

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Healthy Relationships, Conflict Resolution, Happy Relationships, Resolve Conflict, Marriage Issues, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Self Care, Stress Relief, Healthy Communication, Mental Health, Monthly Digest, Imago Relationships, Couples Quality Time, Intentional Dialogue, Emotional Connection, Adulting, couples workshop, Couples Retreat, Getting the Love you Want

Mind Reading in Relationships - When Is It a Good Idea?

Posted by Stacy Bremner, MA, RP on Dec 28, 2019 12:00:00 AM

If you want to improve your relationship, one cardinal rule to follow is - don’t expect your partner to read your mind. This seems obvious, right? But many people operate this way, in an unconscious manner, almost daily.   

Why is this a problem? Because most of us fail at mind-reading (or fail to succeed consistently) which leads to lots of problems:

  • Misunderstandings
  • Disappointments 
  • Resentment 
  • Stress
  • Disconnection 

Expecting our partner (or parent, child or friend) to meet our needs without even asking, can also keep us personally unaware of our expectations and prevent important conversations about each other’s ideas, feelings, wants, needs and priorities.

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Topics: Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Imago Relationships, therapy, Couples Retreat, Getting the Love you Want

Communication Skills - Are They Needed in Your Relationship?

Posted by Anna Gold, M.S.W., R.S.W. on Dec 21, 2019 12:15:00 AM

Do you and your partner have difficulties communicating? Do you have the same core fight over and over again? You know the one, it’s the dreaded topic that keeps coming back and never resolves! 

Does it often feel as if you are each repeatedly working to ensure the other understands your point of view and your ‘way’ of doing things? Perhaps it appears that your partner is neither truly listening, nor appears to care?

If this pattern feels familiar, as it does for so many of us, it may be time to explore what keeps you in connection and what pulls you out of connection. While it seems overly simple to say better communication is vital in relationships, it’s true. And redefining communication as ‘going beneath the surface of what is being said’ can teach us how to change these dynamics in a lasting way.

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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Happy Relationships, Resolve Conflict, Appreciation and Gratitude, Eliminating Negativity, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Healthy Communication, Imago Relationships, Relationship Vision, Intentional Dialogue, Emotional Connection, Celebrate the Differences, Defense Mechanisms, couples workshop

Discovering We're Like Our Parents May Not Be So Bad

Posted by Josh Gressel, Ph.D. on Dec 14, 2019 7:00:00 AM

How to cope with the realization that you may be like the parent who hurt you.

Are you like the person who most hurt you growing up?

Most of us carry some form of injury from one or both of our parents.  For some of us it’s on the more serious side of the continuum: We were physically abused, sexually molested, or seriously neglected.

For others, the injury was more subtle but left its mark nevertheless, taking root in our internal narrative and causing us to make internal oaths not to be like one or the other of our parents when we grow up and have children ourselves.

Our parents were either too strict or not strict enough, they overcontrolled us or didn’t seem to pay attention to what we needed, they lived in their own private world or tried to live their lives through us.

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Family Culture, Healthy Relationships, Happy Relationships, Appreciation and Gratitude, Eliminating Negativity, Forgiveness, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Imago Relationships, Emotional Connection, family therapy

The Space-Between and the Point of Connection for Couples

Posted by Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. on Dec 6, 2019 10:19:50 PM

Most people describe a committed love relationship consisting of two people. But we define a love relationship as "two people plus the Space-Between them.” 

This Space-Between is a core theme in our work with couples. But, what is it and how does it help guide you and your partner to create a conscious, thriving relationship?

It may look like there isn’t anything between you and your partner. But there is. Consider outer space. Our universe is filled with stars, planets, meteors, and comets. We used to think the space between these celestial objects was empty. But, astronomers have proven that the dark space isn’t empty at all.

The dark space is filled with gravitational pull and energy fields that actually hold the planets in their orbits. Just because something is not visible with the naked eye doesn’t mean it’s not there. The intangibles, in fact, are often the invisible glue that holds it all together.

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Marriage Issues, Appreciation and Gratitude, Eliminating Negativity, Couples Therapy, Imago Relationships, couples workshop, therapy

Monthly Digest November 2019: Imago Relationships Blog and Relationship Tips

Posted by Imago Relationships North America on Nov 27, 2019 12:15:22 PM

Here's your Monthly Digest packed full of amazing Imago Relationship Blog posts and Relationship Tips.

Be sure to Subscribe to both and share the love!

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Family Culture, Healthy Relationships, Happy Relationships, Resolve Conflict, Marriage Issues, Emotional Safety, Appreciations, Appreciation and Gratitude, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Self Care, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Human Connection, Mental Health, Monthly Digest, Imago Relationships, Couples Quality Time, Relationship Vision, Emotional Connection, Empathy, Holiday Fun, Holiday Stress, couples workshop, Couples Retreat, Relationships in Recovery, Getting the Love you Want

Words Can Kill Relationships - 5 Words and Phrases to Avoid

Posted by Norene Gonsiewski, LCSW on Nov 23, 2019 7:00:00 AM

Sticks and stones may break your bones, but let’s be honest: words hurt, too.

Even after years of a marriage where you and your partner are completely open and honest with each other, it’s still wise to set some boundaries and refrain from using words and phrases that may hurt your relationship.

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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Marriage Issues, Eliminating Negativity, Couples Therapy, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Imago Relationships, Relationship Vision, Intentional Dialogue, Emotional Connection, couples workshop

Family Dynamics During the Holidays - 7 Tips to Help Maneuver

Posted by Jeannie Ingram, LPC-MHSP on Nov 16, 2019 7:00:00 AM

Thanksgiving is an emotional time. People travel thousands of miles to be with people they see only once a year. And then discover once a year is way too often. – Johnny Carson

Yes, Thanksgiving is right around the corner. For many, this thought is mixed with anxiety. As in, “oh boy, what will happen this year”? 

Why does he always have to talk politics, knowing someone will be insulted? Why can’t we just get together, you know… to be *thankful*? 

Oh the irony of a holiday called Thanksgiving that also somehow brings out the worst in a family.  Why is this? And perhaps more importantly, what can we do about it?

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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Appreciation and Gratitude, Forgiveness, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Imago Relationships

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