Imago Relationships Blog

The Space-Between and the Point of Connection for Couples

Posted by Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. on Dec 6, 2019 10:19:50 PM

Most people describe a committed love relationship consisting of two people. But we define a love relationship as "two people plus the Space-Between them.” 

This Space-Between is a core theme in our work with couples. But, what is it and how does it help guide you and your partner to create a conscious, thriving relationship?

It may look like there isn’t anything between you and your partner. But there is. Consider outer space. Our universe is filled with stars, planets, meteors, and comets. We used to think the space between these celestial objects was empty. But, astronomers have proven that the dark space isn’t empty at all.

The dark space is filled with gravitational pull and energy fields that actually hold the planets in their orbits. Just because something is not visible with the naked eye doesn’t mean it’s not there. The intangibles, in fact, are often the invisible glue that holds it all together.

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Marriage Issues, Appreciation and Gratitude, Eliminating Negativity, Couples Therapy, Imago Relationships, couples workshop, therapy

Monthly Digest November 2019: Imago Relationships Blog and Relationship Tips

Posted by Imago Relationships North America on Nov 27, 2019 12:15:22 PM

Here's your Monthly Digest packed full of amazing Imago Relationship Blog posts and Relationship Tips.

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Family Culture, Healthy Relationships, Happy Relationships, Resolve Conflict, Marriage Issues, Emotional Safety, Appreciations, Appreciation and Gratitude, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Self Care, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Human Connection, Mental Health, Monthly Digest, Imago Relationships, Couples Quality Time, Relationship Vision, Emotional Connection, Empathy, Holiday Fun, Holiday Stress, couples workshop, Couples Retreat, Relationships in Recovery, Getting the Love you Want

Words Can Kill Relationships - 5 Words and Phrases to Avoid

Posted by Norene Gonsiewski, LCSW on Nov 23, 2019 7:00:00 AM

Sticks and stones may break your bones, but let’s be honest: words hurt, too.

Even after years of a marriage where you and your partner are completely open and honest with each other, it’s still wise to set some boundaries and refrain from using words and phrases that may hurt your relationship.

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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Marriage Issues, Eliminating Negativity, Couples Therapy, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Imago Relationships, Relationship Vision, Intentional Dialogue, Emotional Connection, couples workshop

Family Dynamics During the Holidays - 7 Tips to Help Maneuver

Posted by Jeannie Ingram, LPC-MHSP on Nov 16, 2019 7:00:00 AM

Thanksgiving is an emotional time. People travel thousands of miles to be with people they see only once a year. And then discover once a year is way too often. – Johnny Carson

Yes, Thanksgiving is right around the corner. For many, this thought is mixed with anxiety. As in, “oh boy, what will happen this year”? 

Why does he always have to talk politics, knowing someone will be insulted? Why can’t we just get together, you know… to be *thankful*? 

Oh the irony of a holiday called Thanksgiving that also somehow brings out the worst in a family.  Why is this? And perhaps more importantly, what can we do about it?

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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Appreciation and Gratitude, Forgiveness, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Imago Relationships

Healthy Relationship Resources: Relationships in Recovery

Posted by Lori Karch, LCSW on Nov 9, 2019 7:00:00 AM

 

Relationships can be difficult to navigate. There is a great deal of passionate emotion stirring around our souls when our relationships are not sailing along smoothly. Relationships in recovery are even more tricky. Not only is the relationship often in stormy seas, but it's also as if the person in recovery is steering two ships—that of their recovery, and that of their relationship.

By using a few navigational tools for our relationships we can ensure all the people in our lives are on the same boat and steering toward the same goal: peaceful, loving, joyful and clean-living relationships.

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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Breaking Habits, Couples Therapy, couples workshop, therapy, Relationships in Recovery

Monthly Digest October 2019: Imago Relationships Blog and Relationship Tips

Posted by Imago Relationships North America on Nov 1, 2019 2:15:46 PM

Here's your Monthly Digest packed full of amazing Imago Relationship Blog posts and Relationship Tips.

Be sure to Subscribe to both and share the love!

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Family Mission Statement, Family Culture, Healthy Relationships, Happy Relationships, Marriage Issues, Breaking Habits, Emotional Safety, Appreciations, Appreciation and Gratitude, Finding Love Again, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Self Care, Stress Relief, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Human Connection, Mental Health, Digital IQ, Monthly Digest, Imago Relationships, Couples Quality Time, Relationship Vision, Intentional Dialogue, Emotional Connection, Self Love, Defense Mechanisms, Divorce, Holiday Fun, Teenagers, couples workshop, family therapy

Are You Defensive in Your Relationship?

Posted by Jill Wolf, LCSW on Oct 26, 2019 7:00:00 AM

As an Imago Therapist, I often hear clients express their concerns about their partner's behaviors during moments of conflict. One partner might be fully bothered by the fact their partner seems to shut down, while another client might hate the fact their partner overreacts and takes things "the wrong way."

As one client recently summed it up, "The problem with my wife is, she’stoo defensive! I say one thing and she acts like I just about killed her."  Interestingly, this man's wife saw the issue as her husband beginning to withdraw again. As she puts it, "He never wants to talk. If I tell him I want to have a conversation he gives me the "Am I in trouble?" look and seems to slink away."

What's truly bothering each person in this relationship, is the defense that their partner presents in a response to THEM!

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Happy Relationships, Marriage Issues, Emotional Safety, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Relationship Vision, Intentional Dialogue, Defense Mechanisms, couples workshop

How to Talk to Your Teenager Today

Posted by Evie Shafner, LMFT on Oct 19, 2019 12:30:00 PM

As parents, we’re filled with a lot of anxiety about creating a good citizen of the world, of making sure they have social graces, are kind and behave well, are successful in school. Nowhere might this anxiety be felt as much as when they are teenagers, and we know we don’t have much time left to mold their beautiful little souls! So we might be correcting, evaluating, over-teaching, criticizing - all with good intention to launch a good kid.

But I think the most important goal of this stage is to talk and act in ways that keep them connected to you. Then, they’re going to turn to you when they need advice, and not just go to their friends, who don’t know much more than they do.  Here are some thoughts on how to facilitate that connection.

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Topics: Happy Relationships, Breaking Habits, Appreciation and Gratitude, Anxiety, Human Connection, Imago Relationships, Self Esteem, Teenagers, family therapy

7 Signs of Serious Relationship Troubles

Posted by Dr. Tammy Nelson, PHD, CST, CSCT, LPC, LADC on Oct 12, 2019 8:30:00 PM

 

Most of us get uncomfortable thinking about ending any long term partnership. It’s super scary to leave a comfortable relationship even if it’s not fulfilling, even if we become unhappy or close to miserable. We stay in what we know. We don’t want to hurt another person.

Plus, it’s hard to move furniture. And change your whole life.

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Topics: Sex Therapy, Managing Conflict, Marriage Issues, Decluttering Your Life, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Imago Relationships, Relationship Vision, Intentional Dialogue, couples workshop

Monthly Digest September 2019: Imago Relationships Blog and Relationship Tips

Posted by Imago Relationships North America on Oct 6, 2019 7:00:00 AM

Here's your Monthly Digest packed full of amazing Imago Relationship Blog posts and Relationship Tips.

Be sure to subscribe to both and share!

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Healthy Relationships, Happy Relationships, Marriage Issues, Breaking Habits, Panic Attacks, Anxiety, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Self Care, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Mental Health, Monthly Digest, Imago Relationships, Couples Quality Time, Relationship Vision, Emotional Connection, Self Love, Cheating, Divorce, Acts of Kindness, Gender Identity, Sexual Identity, Teen Sexuality, Breathing Techniques

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