--- title: Imago Relationships Blog Helps Build Healthy Relationships | Evie Shafner, LMFT description: "With a degree in clinical psychology in hand, Evie started private practice in 1979, as a licensed MFT. She was one of the founders of the Los Angeles Women’s Therapy Center, where she worked for over 20 years. \n\nEvie began training in Imago Relationship Therapy in the 90’s, getting certified in 1994. 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