Do you crave more simplicity?
Do you wish for more time to engage in things you love, or be with someone for whom you haven’t had the time?
Perhaps it is time to "declutter your life".
Some pertinent questions provide a starting point in assessing how to declutter:
- Will you ever use this item again?
- Does this item bring you pleasure?
- How do you envision your personal space?
- Are these things useful now or might they be useful, truly, in the future?
- Is there another way you can hold on to the memory of this person instead of keeping their stuff?
- Is there a place you can put this that does not take up physical space in your home?
So, with a big breath and a pause, we might choose to take a similar inventory of ourselves and our lives as we do with our homes:
- What is the vision you have of your relationship with yourself and with others, and of how you spend your time & energy?
- Which connections enrich you and which drain you, and of these which are obligations and which can you release?
- What activities continue to bring you pleasure and reward? Which activities detract from your vision?
- Are there friendships or relationships in which you are involved where the balance is more discomfort than pleasure?
- When is it time to say ‘goodbye’ to relationships and activities not serving your vision?
- What do you truly value and what do you not value, and yet find yourself continuing to do?
- Where do you really wish to expend your energy?
- What have you been wishing and waiting to do for some time, telling yourself there isn’t enough time?
- What are the things that you allow to distract you from making choices that support your vision?
This blog post was written by Anna Gold, M.S.W., R.S.W.
Anna Gold earned her Master’s in Clinical Social Work in 1988 from Wilfrid Laurier University, in Waterloo, Ontario. Her first degree, from York University, had a focus on English Literature, with a love of language, stories and literature influencing her work as a therapist and a writer. The combination of these two areas of study have greatly influenced her work as a therapist, with the power of our ‘stories’ and how we perceive and understand these of critical importance in the work of personal and relational growth.
Since her graduate studies she has continued her accreditation in areas of Transactional Analysis, Trauma therapy, and Relationship Therapy. Anna works with the belief that it is in the depth of human connection that real understanding and healing can occur. Discovering a passion for working with couples Anna became a certified Imago therapist and Workshop Presenter. As a lifelong resident of Waterloo Region, Anna has devoted her practice to this region. She has taught in the area of clinical skills in social work, has managed counselling services for the Brantford campus of Wilfrid Laurier University, and has worked in child welfare in protection, adoption, and fostering. Anna also provides consultation support to small business owners as well as not for profit organizations to support the improvement of communication skills and business practices. Anna is a clinical supervisor for therapists who are committed to the understanding that increased self-awareness and personal growth and reflection is a critical component of clinical competency.
For the past 31 years, Anna has maintained her focus on and passion for her private practice at Southern Ontario Counselling Centre. Anna has appeared on TV in her professional capacity as a therapist. She is also the author of articles published in various journals. You can find Anna’s reflections in her newsletter and on her website at Southern Ontario Counselling Centre, as well as her upcoming website Replenish Relationships.