Imago Relationships Blog

How Erotically Intelligent are You?

Posted by Caroline Bernhardt-Lanier, MS, LCPC on Aug 18, 2019 11:11:00 AM

What does eroticism mean? The Center for Erotic Intelligence defines eroticism as “the interplay of desire and arousal with the daily challenges of living and loving,” and describes the five main elements of erotic intelligence as:

  1. Body attunement
  2. Social intelligence
  3. Emotional intelligence
  4. Self-awareness on steroids
  5. Creative imagination

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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Finding Love Again, Self Care, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Male Sexuality, Eroticism, Body Image, Erotic Intelligence, Sexual Desire, Sexual Trauma, Erotic Language, Sexual Communication, Emotional Connection, Female Sexuality

Tidying Up Your Relationship with Marie Kondo's Advice

Posted by Thea Harvey, MA, MFT on Aug 11, 2019 11:11:00 AM

I caught the Tidying Up with Marie Kondo bug. Like so many, my family and I were enthralled by her Netflix series (now we have a garage full of giveaway bags). On The Late Show, Stephen Colbert asked her why she thought so many Americans were captivated by her show. “People want to unclutter their hearts,” she responded. You can watch the segment here.

The series goes into the homes of families who feel overwhelmed and paralyzed by their stuff. Like magic, Marie steps in and transforms their lives with the KonMari Method, not only tidying up their homes but their intimate relationships. As a marriage and family therapist and certified Imago therapist who specializes in couples, this caught my eye. Imago Therapy is a relational modality that focuses on intimate partnership.

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Topics: Family Culture, Healthy Relationships, Decluttering Your Life, Stress Relief, Healthy Communication, Imago Relationships, Relationship Vision, Intentional Dialogue, Tidying Up

Monthly Digest: Imago Relationships Blog and Relationship Tips

Posted by Imago Relationships North America on Aug 4, 2019 11:11:00 AM

Here's your Monthly Digest packed full of the amazing Imago Relationship Blog posts and Relationship Tips.

Be sure to subscribe to both and share!

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Topics: Sex Therapy, Managing Conflict, Family Mission Statement, Family Culture, Healthy Relationships, Conflict Resolution, Happy Relationships, Marriage Issues, Breaking Habits, Bad Breakup, Emotional Safety, Appreciation and Gratitude, Eliminating Negativity, Invisible Abuse, Anxiety, Finding Love Again, Forgiveness, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Recovering from an Affair, Self Care, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Human Connection, Mental Health, Male Sexuality, Mental Fitness, Gender Bias, Sexual Fluidity, Digital Emotional Intelligence, Emotional Intelligence, Monthly Digest, Imago Relationships

10 Myths About Male Sexuality

Posted by Joe Kort, Ph.D., LMSW on Jul 28, 2019 11:11:00 AM

As a sex therapist, I focus a lot in the area of male sexuality with patients as well as teaching classes online and around the United States. In my travels, I’ve come to realize that we need to take a deeper look at male sexuality and challenge gender bias against men and stop sexual shaming. In my experience, by helping men and women understand the landscape of male sexuality, it can reduce the amount of conflict in relationships.

In the last few years, there’s been a growing movement among sex therapists and researchers to really understand men’s sexuality—not what it’s “supposed to be,” but rather how it manifests, where its roots lie, and how to deal with the conflicts it presents, not only in therapy with men, but with couples too.

Therapists have long recognized that women are further ahead of men in terms of emotional access and vocabulary, and historically we’ve tried to help men catch up to women in this regard. We are now beginning to ask how we can help women understand where it is their men are today vs. waiting for them to catch up. So, here are 10 myths about men’s sexuality that will offer some alternative views.

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Topics: Sex Therapy, Sex Myths, Managing Conflict, Healthy Relationships, Healthy Connection, Male Sexuality, Gender Bias, Sexual Fluidity

Are You Truly Connecting with Your Partner?

Posted by Hayley Hoffman, MA, LGPC on Jul 21, 2019 11:11:00 AM
As an Imago therapist, I often see couples struggling in the area of connecting vs. communicating with each other. Communication can be very different from connecting with your loved ones if you are not in a conscious relationship.
 
In a recent conversation I had with Harville Hendrix he shared his insight on the topic. I understood Harville to say that couples come into therapy hoping to improve their communication skills when what they  really want is to improve their connecting skills.
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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Human Connection

Gratitude is a Choice - Even in Challenging Times

Posted by Dawn Lipthrott, LCSW on Jul 7, 2019 11:39:44 AM

One of the best things you can do for your marriage and for your overall happiness is to actively cultivate an attitude of gratitude. It requires some dedicated focus, but it’s much easier than you think!

Here’s an example why:

Last year we decided to paint our house gray, so we looked at many shades of gray at the store. We even compared all the gray houses in our town, and then one day I noticed the perfect shade of gray on a parked car - so I took a picture! I was relieved and never thought about finding that perfect color again. Yet, my brain took over and for the next two weeks, I somehow noticed 10 gray cars.

The point of the story is that you’ll always find more of what you search for in life, and your brain is very helpful in noticing things you want to pay attention to and looking for evidence to support what you already believe. This action in our brain is called confirmation bias, and it relates to our personal relationships as well.

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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Conflict Resolution, Happy Relationships, Resolve Conflict, Appreciation and Gratitude, Eliminating Negativity

Healthy Relationships - 6 Steps to Create Harmony at Home

Posted by Imago Relationships North America on Jun 9, 2019 11:11:00 AM

What does the word Home mean to you? Does home equate to nurture or love? Is home filled with healthy relationships? Or, is it simply a permanent place where one resides?

We'd like to think of the word home as a place where we feel safe and can lay our head down after a long day at work. Home is a cozy place where we can cuddle up with our loved ones on the couch, where we can laugh and play games, or be nurtured when we are sick. Home is a place where relationships grow stronger! This type of home sounds amazing, right?

But, creating happy relationships can sometimes be difficult in our home environments. What if we don’t have a home as defined above? How do we create a place that truly brings joy, heals and nurtures us as well as our loved ones? Here are 6 tips on creating a home full of peace and harmony today.

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Topics: Family Mission Statement, Family Culture, Healthy Relationships, Conflict Resolution, Happy Relationships