Do you remember how it felt at the beginning of your relationship? The romantic rush of falling in love? How many of us wish we could relive that experience—especially with the person we’re still with today?
Where Did The Romance Go in Your Marriage?
What happens that prevents those deep feelings of love from sticking? We long for:
- The racing heartbeat
- Butterflies in our stomach
- Endless, deep conversations
- Romantic gestures—touches, gifts, and shared moments.
Oh, how we wish for those "falling in love" days again.
And what about the romance novel industry? We’ve read some, of course, for research (guilty as charged!). These romance stories follow a predictable pattern:
- Two people fall in love
- They face a dramatic miscommunication
- They realize their deep feelings
- Everything is repaired—forever!
Then, they turned the romantic story into a romantic movie. But wait… could a romance movie play out in real life?
Is it Possible to Fall Back in Love Again?
Can we truly reignite passion, connection, and love—with the same partner? And this time, can the love last?
We believe it IS possible, and we’re constantly exploring ways to:
- Rekindle the spark in relationships
- Deepen emotional connection
- Strengthen lasting love.
The #1 Reason Why Relationships Get Hard
At the core of many relationship struggles, or relationship disconnects, is what Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, founders of IMAGO Relationship Therapy, call “The Power Struggle.” While this stage is typically challenging and emotionally complex, we know it’s possible to move through it—and out the other side!
One key to this—perhaps not surprisingly—is mindful communication. When we:
- Pause the cycle of miscommunication
- Trust a process that helps bridge differences
- Hold space for two vastly different realities to coexist
…we can create the opportunity to rediscover romantic love—what we call ‘Real Love’ in lasting relationships.
IMAGO Relationship Therapy: A Game-Changer for Couples
A core tool in IMAGO Relationship Therapy is the IMAGO Intentional Dialogue—a structured approach to communication that helps deepen understanding and uncover how childhood trauma (or wounds) influence relationship dynamics.
Imago is a powerful, transformative process, but it takes time. Once we master the Imago Dialogue as an ultimate connection tool, we then ask ourselves:
- What other ways can we bridge our differences and create meaningful moments every day in our marriage?
- Maybe it’s going back to a more joyful time.
Bringing Fun & Play Back into Your Relationship
One of the most fulfilling parts of our ongoing work is teaching not only the dialogue and relational awareness, but also shortcuts to everyday fun; ways for connection. Bring fun and play back into your marriage. Here are a few we are experimenting with:
- Playing with mirroring in the everyday
- Validating instead of apologizing
- Using improv techniques like “Yes, and…” instead of “No, but…”
- Enjoying some other small but impactful romantic gestures.
Marriage Doesn’t Have to Be So Hard
At its core, a strong, loving relationship isn’t about avoiding struggles—it’s about learning how to navigate them together. By embracing intentional communication, rekindling playfulness, and making space for real connection, couples can move beyond the power struggle and rediscover the joy of being in love.
So, can you fall back in love again? Absolutely. With the right tools, a little patience, and a commitment to each other, you can create a marriage that’s not only fulfilling but also filled with the excitement, passion, and deep connection you once cherished.
If you and your partner are ready to rebuild and reconnect, we’re here to help. Love isn’t just something that happens—it’s something we create, every day.
Join us on our love journey—whether through our YouTube channel, at one of our workshops or retreats, or by exploring this week’s lesson, where we share a simple yet powerful tool that just might surprise you (and your partner!)
If you and your partner are struggling with keeping score and the win-lose dynamic, we're here to help. Check out our virtual and in-person Imago Relationships Workshops and Imago Relationships Therapy. Discover more about Imago with our Imago Professional Membership, Imago Professional Facilitators, Imago Professional Training, and Imago Insights Education.
Anna Gold earned her Master’s in Social Work in 1988. Anna works with the belief that it is in the depth of human connection that real understanding and healing can occur. Deeply appreciating the theory which connects her passion for inner work and relational work, Anna began studying IMAGO therapy in 2011. Anna also enjoys work as a clinical supervisor for therapists who are committed to the understanding that increased self-awareness, personal growth, and self-reflection are critical components of clinical competency.
Tim Utting earned his Master’s degree in Political Science in 1989. His interest in politics lay in human behaviour where he found himself exploring such questions as “What is charisma and attraction?” After receiving his degree from the University of Toronto in 1990, he began his career as both a high school teacher and adjunct professor in education. Tim’s interest in human relationships, attraction and perception are all deeply embedded concepts in the world of relationship therapy. In addition, his love of teaching and his skills in helping others to ‘metabolise’ challenging concepts are at the forefront of his contribution to the workshop experience.
Anna & Tim met as graduate students in 1987. Although they were at the same university, it was at a Halloween party when they first laid eyes on each other. The rest of this story of unlikely pairing is playfully shared at their Getting the Love You Want Workshops! As with most romantic relationships, it was their similarities which appeared to draw them together.
As Tim & Anna grew to know one another over the years, and over the course of raising two strong, caring and connected young men, their differences became even more apparent and they found that they were often in conflict that they did not know how to resolve.
In 2008 Anna met an IMAGO therapist who became her clinical supervisor and it was only then that the couple began to learn how to bridge their differences. Encouraged to study IMAGO therapy herself, Anna began a new and exciting phase in her counseling career. As part of her certification, Anna was required to attend a ‘Getting the Love You Want’ workshop and Tim agreed to join her. From that point on there was no turning back. Tim & Anna have embraced IMAGO and conscious connection thoroughly - though originally as ‘dragger’ & ‘draggee’...they now walk through their lives together with intention. Their passion is to share the work and rewards of conscious coupleship with others.
Discover more about Anna and Tim at:https://replenishrelationships.com/
