It is essential that we act in ways that are loving toward our partner. That’s a given. But, what happens when we try to be loving, and our efforts are rejected, or dismissed?
Topics: Healthy Relationships, Happy Relationships, Appreciation and Gratitude, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Human Connection, Imago Relationships, Relationship Vision, Emotional Connection, couples workshop, Getting the Love you Want, Receiving Love
Sex - where did it go and why?
What the heck happened to us?? We used to have sex so much more, and now . . . .
The sexual connection in many a relationship is the first to founder under any stress or tension. Couples find themselves bickering. They enjoy each other's company less. And they don't make the connection that their lackluster sexual activity is a huge part of the problem.
Many people with a healthy level of desire find themselves more irritable and prone to temper flare-ups when they’re sexually frustrated. A malaise sets in, having an insidious effect on the overall relationship. At best, relationships become more like business partnerships. Or one in which partners are often in each other's presence, but not connecting with each other.
Topics: Healthy Relationships, Healthy Connection, Male Sexuality, Emotional Intelligence, Imago Relationships, Sexual Desire, Sexual Trauma, Erotic Language, Sexual Communication, Emotional Connection, Female Sexuality, Self Love, Getting the Love you Want
Ahhh, the age-old question…. Do Soulmates exist?
It’s such a romantic notion that there’s just one soul destined for you, even written in the heavens before you were born. This one soul sent just for you to shower you in a timeless love story. Ah, what a lovely thought! Right?
Did you know that only 7% of our communication is verbal?
In fact, 93% of communication is nonverbal, which includes our tone of voice and our body language.
So, even though your partner is not verbally saying something to you, they may be thinking or feeling something that they’re actually communicating through body language.
Researchers at Washington University in St. Louis looked deeper into this idea.
How does a partner interpret another partner’s cues?
What cues are given that partners should be able to spot?
How can you gain the skills in order to understand your partner’s cues of non-verbal language better?
Procrastination has become a dirty word in an economy built on productivity, product life cycles, and publication deadlines. We may admit we procrastinate in that flippant, self-deprecating way without filling in too many of the ugly details.
Procrastinating on really big projects like fixing up the house makes sense or a dissertation. That is perfecting understandable, but when we’re struggling to clean the cat box, get our kid to the dentist, or change the oil in our car --- not so much.
Look more carefully at your default responses to life's invitations for growth.
My best guess is that 99% of you reading this will answer the question of this title in the affirmative. Of course, I’m saying “yes” to life. Why wouldn’t I?
Topics: Healthy Relationships, Appreciation and Gratitude, Eliminating Negativity, Forgiveness, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Imago Relationships, Emotional Connection, Defense Mechanisms, personalgrowth
Nature is not the only place to notice rebirth and renewal. We associate the New Year with a fresh start and even a new birth. The new year is a time of expanding boundaries and openness, and since many people around us are equally excited so many things feel just right.
In nature, rebirth is most noticeable in spring. However, we can experience a rebirth in our relationships and a sense of personal identity at any time. We are ever-evolving in our approach to life and as we value changes (and especially as we increasingly value ourselves) our approach to existing and new relationships changes. A new identity and self-concept emerge and this is not static.
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Topics: Managing Conflict, Healthy Relationships, Conflict Resolution, Happy Relationships, Resolve Conflict, Marriage Issues, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Self Care, Stress Relief, Healthy Communication, Mental Health, Monthly Digest, Imago Relationships, Couples Quality Time, Intentional Dialogue, Emotional Connection, Adulting, couples workshop, Couples Retreat, Getting the Love you Want
If you want to improve your relationship, one cardinal rule to follow is - don’t expect your partner to read your mind. This seems obvious, right? But many people operate this way, in an unconscious manner, almost daily.
Why is this a problem? Because most of us fail at mind-reading (or fail to succeed consistently) which leads to lots of problems:
Expecting our partner (or parent, child or friend) to meet our needs without even asking, can also keep us personally unaware of our expectations and prevent important conversations about each other’s ideas, feelings, wants, needs and priorities.
Do you and your partner have difficulties communicating? Do you have the same core fight over and over again? You know the one, it’s the dreaded topic that keeps coming back and never resolves!
Does it often feel as if you are each repeatedly working to ensure the other understands your point of view and your ‘way’ of doing things? Perhaps it appears that your partner is neither truly listening, nor appears to care?
If this pattern feels familiar, as it does for so many of us, it may be time to explore what keeps you in connection and what pulls you out of connection. While it seems overly simple to say better communication is vital in relationships, it’s true. And redefining communication as ‘going beneath the surface of what is being said’ can teach us how to change these dynamics in a lasting way.
Topics: Healthy Relationships, Happy Relationships, Resolve Conflict, Appreciation and Gratitude, Eliminating Negativity, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Healthy Communication, Imago Relationships, Relationship Vision, Intentional Dialogue, Emotional Connection, Celebrate the Differences, Defense Mechanisms, couples workshop