Imago Relationships Blog

Receiving Love

It is essential that we act in ways that are loving toward our partner. That’s a given. But, what happens when we try to be loving, and our efforts are rejected, or dismissed?

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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Happy Relationships, Appreciation and Gratitude, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Human Connection, Imago Relationships, Relationship Vision, Emotional Connection, couples workshop, Getting the Love you Want, Receiving Love

Are You Missing Your Partner's Body Language?

Posted by Norene Gonsiewski, LCSW on Jan 31, 2020 10:54:05 AM

Did you know that only 7% of our communication is verbal? 

In fact, 93% of communication is nonverbal, which includes our tone of voice and our body language.  

So, even though your partner is not verbally saying something to you, they may be thinking or feeling something that they’re actually communicating through body language. 

Researchers at Washington University in St. Louis looked deeper into this idea.

How does a partner interpret another partner’s cues?

What cues are given that partners should be able to spot?

How can you gain the skills in order to understand your partner’s cues of non-verbal language better? 

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Topics: Happy Relationships, Healthy Communication, Imago Relationships, Emotional Connection, couples workshop, Couples Retreat

Does Your Relationship Need a Rebirth in 2020?

Posted by Aviva Chansky Guttmann, LMSW on Jan 10, 2020 2:03:43 PM

Nature is not the only place to notice rebirth and renewal. We associate the New Year with a fresh start and even a new birth. The new year is a time of expanding boundaries and openness, and since many people around us are equally excited so many things feel just right.

In nature, rebirth is most noticeable in spring. However, we can experience a rebirth in our relationships and a sense of personal identity at any time. We are ever-evolving in our approach to life and as we value changes (and especially as we increasingly value ourselves) our approach to existing and new relationships changes. A new identity and self-concept emerge and this is not static.

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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Conflict Resolution, Happy Relationships, Resolve Conflict, Marriage Issues, Healthy Communication, Imago Relationships, Relationship Vision, Emotional Connection

Monthly Digest December 2019: Imago Relationships Blog and Relationship Tips

Posted by Imago Relationships North America on Jan 4, 2020 2:15:20 PM

Here's your Monthly Digest packed full of amazing Imago Relationship Blog posts and Relationship Tips.

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Healthy Relationships, Conflict Resolution, Happy Relationships, Resolve Conflict, Marriage Issues, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Self Care, Stress Relief, Healthy Communication, Mental Health, Monthly Digest, Imago Relationships, Couples Quality Time, Intentional Dialogue, Emotional Connection, Adulting, couples workshop, Couples Retreat, Getting the Love you Want

Communication Skills - Are They Needed in Your Relationship?

Posted by Anna Gold, M.S.W., R.S.W. on Dec 21, 2019 12:15:00 AM

Do you and your partner have difficulties communicating? Do you have the same core fight over and over again? You know the one, it’s the dreaded topic that keeps coming back and never resolves! 

Does it often feel as if you are each repeatedly working to ensure the other understands your point of view and your ‘way’ of doing things? Perhaps it appears that your partner is neither truly listening, nor appears to care?

If this pattern feels familiar, as it does for so many of us, it may be time to explore what keeps you in connection and what pulls you out of connection. While it seems overly simple to say better communication is vital in relationships, it’s true. And redefining communication as ‘going beneath the surface of what is being said’ can teach us how to change these dynamics in a lasting way.

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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Happy Relationships, Resolve Conflict, Appreciation and Gratitude, Eliminating Negativity, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Healthy Communication, Imago Relationships, Relationship Vision, Intentional Dialogue, Emotional Connection, Celebrate the Differences, Defense Mechanisms, couples workshop

Discovering We're Like Our Parents May Not Be So Bad

Posted by Josh Gressel, Ph.D. on Dec 14, 2019 7:00:00 AM

How to cope with the realization that you may be like the parent who hurt you.

Are you like the person who most hurt you growing up?

Most of us carry some form of injury from one or both of our parents.  For some of us it’s on the more serious side of the continuum: We were physically abused, sexually molested, or seriously neglected.

For others, the injury was more subtle but left its mark nevertheless, taking root in our internal narrative and causing us to make internal oaths not to be like one or the other of our parents when we grow up and have children ourselves.

Our parents were either too strict or not strict enough, they overcontrolled us or didn’t seem to pay attention to what we needed, they lived in their own private world or tried to live their lives through us.

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Family Culture, Healthy Relationships, Happy Relationships, Appreciation and Gratitude, Eliminating Negativity, Forgiveness, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Imago Relationships, Emotional Connection, family therapy

Monthly Digest November 2019: Imago Relationships Blog and Relationship Tips

Posted by Imago Relationships North America on Nov 27, 2019 12:15:22 PM

Here's your Monthly Digest packed full of amazing Imago Relationship Blog posts and Relationship Tips.

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Family Culture, Healthy Relationships, Happy Relationships, Resolve Conflict, Marriage Issues, Emotional Safety, Appreciations, Appreciation and Gratitude, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Self Care, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Human Connection, Mental Health, Monthly Digest, Imago Relationships, Couples Quality Time, Relationship Vision, Emotional Connection, Empathy, Holiday Fun, Holiday Stress, couples workshop, Couples Retreat, Relationships in Recovery, Getting the Love you Want

Monthly Digest October 2019: Imago Relationships Blog and Relationship Tips

Posted by Imago Relationships North America on Nov 1, 2019 2:15:46 PM

Here's your Monthly Digest packed full of amazing Imago Relationship Blog posts and Relationship Tips.

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Family Mission Statement, Family Culture, Healthy Relationships, Happy Relationships, Marriage Issues, Breaking Habits, Emotional Safety, Appreciations, Appreciation and Gratitude, Finding Love Again, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Self Care, Stress Relief, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Human Connection, Mental Health, Digital IQ, Monthly Digest, Imago Relationships, Couples Quality Time, Relationship Vision, Intentional Dialogue, Emotional Connection, Self Love, Defense Mechanisms, Divorce, Holiday Fun, Teenagers, couples workshop, family therapy

Are You Defensive in Your Relationship?

Posted by Jill Wolf, LCSW on Oct 26, 2019 7:00:00 AM

As an Imago Therapist, I often hear clients express their concerns about their partner's behaviors during moments of conflict. One partner might be fully bothered by the fact their partner seems to shut down, while another client might hate the fact their partner overreacts and takes things "the wrong way."

As one client recently summed it up, "The problem with my wife is, she’stoo defensive! I say one thing and she acts like I just about killed her."  Interestingly, this man's wife saw the issue as her husband beginning to withdraw again. As she puts it, "He never wants to talk. If I tell him I want to have a conversation he gives me the "Am I in trouble?" look and seems to slink away."

What's truly bothering each person in this relationship, is the defense that their partner presents in a response to THEM!

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Happy Relationships, Marriage Issues, Emotional Safety, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Relationship Vision, Intentional Dialogue, Defense Mechanisms, couples workshop

How to Talk to Your Teenager Today

Posted by Evie Shafner, LMFT on Oct 19, 2019 12:30:00 PM

As parents, we’re filled with a lot of anxiety about creating a good citizen of the world, of making sure they have social graces, are kind and behave well, are successful in school. Nowhere might this anxiety be felt as much as when they are teenagers, and we know we don’t have much time left to mold their beautiful little souls! So we might be correcting, evaluating, over-teaching, criticizing - all with good intention to launch a good kid.

But I think the most important goal of this stage is to talk and act in ways that keep them connected to you. Then, they’re going to turn to you when they need advice, and not just go to their friends, who don’t know much more than they do.  Here are some thoughts on how to facilitate that connection.

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Topics: Happy Relationships, Breaking Habits, Appreciation and Gratitude, Anxiety, Human Connection, Imago Relationships, Self Esteem, Teenagers, family therapy

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