Imago Relationships Blog

Are You Considering a Divorce?

Posted by Jeannie Ingram, LPC-MHSP on Sep 15, 2019 11:11:00 AM
 

Considering divorce? It’s understandable.

You've experienced relationship struggles, and it's become a frustrating place to live. Your partner is obviously capable of showing generous love to the dog or cat as you witness the affection you long for. You can't remember the last time your partner asked about you, your day or expressed any interest in any aspect of your life. It’s been years since you fell in love and now, at best you feel like you’re living with a roommate, and at worst, you’re “sleeping with the enemy”.

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Topics: Healthy Relationships, Conflict Resolution, Marriage Issues, Appreciation and Gratitude, Finding Love Again, Forgiveness, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Imago Relationships, Intentional Dialogue, Celebrate the Differences, Defense Mechanisms, divorce

Protect Your Marriage - Avoid These 4 Harmful Behaviors

Posted by Christine Wilke, Ed.S., LMFT on Sep 8, 2019 11:11:00 AM

When most people are asked to describe what cheating would look like in their relationship the first thing that comes to mind is an extramarital affair. But there are a number of ways you can cheat your partner out of genuine intimacy without ever having an affair.

As a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist I am all too familiar with the importance of "closing the exits" in your marriage. Affairs, addictions and even mental illness can all be forms of hard-core exits. But exits can also be those subtle little diversions couples engage in that enable them to avoid true intimacy with each other.

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Healthy Relationships, Happy Relationships, Resolve Conflict, Marriage Issues, Breaking Habits, Finding Love Again, Relationship Therapy, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Human Connection, Imago Relationships, Emotional Connection, Cheating

Monthly Digest July 2019: Imago Relationships Blog and Relationship Tips

Posted by Imago Relationships North America on Aug 4, 2019 11:11:00 AM

Here's your Monthly Digest packed full of the amazing Imago Relationship Blog posts and Relationship Tips.

Be sure to subscribe to both and share!

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Topics: Sex Therapy, Managing Conflict, Family Mission Statement, Family Culture, Healthy Relationships, Conflict Resolution, Happy Relationships, Marriage Issues, Breaking Habits, Bad Breakup, Emotional Safety, Appreciation and Gratitude, Eliminating Negativity, Invisible Abuse, Anxiety, Finding Love Again, Forgiveness, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Recovering from an Affair, Self Care, Healthy Connection, Healthy Communication, Human Connection, Mental Health, Male Sexuality, Mental Fitness, Gender Bias, Sexual Fluidity, Digital Emotional Intelligence, Emotional Intelligence, Monthly Digest, Imago Relationships

Recovering from an Affair

Posted by Jeannie Ingram, LPC-MHSP on Jul 14, 2019 11:11:00 AM

Is anything more painful than betrayal? Perhaps not, at least on the topic of relationships. Though common (one fourth to one half, depending on who you ask), this type of rupture is excruciating, and often fatal to the relationship.

Most often, the betrayal seems insurmountable at first. Reactions are understandably strong and absolute; e.g., “I could never be with you again”.  “I will always be angry and resentful”.

Healing and recovering from an affair does take time, but it is possible if both people are willing to do the work. How long it takes depends on a number of variables, but I have found on average that two years is a fair estimate. Obviously, for some, it takes longer, and others dig deep and work it out sooner. Much of it depends on motivation and willingness to listen and understand.

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Topics: Marriage Issues, Finding Love Again, Forgiveness, Relationship Therapy, Couples Therapy, Recovering from an Affair

Stop Abusing Your Partner with Negativity

Posted by Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. on Jun 30, 2019 11:11:00 AM

During the time our marriage teetered between renewal and divorce, we were visiting a book store when we happened on a book about how astrology affects relationships. Just for fun, we opened to the page where our two astrological signs intersected. Then we read, “You will destroy your relationship unless you stop the unrelenting negative scrutiny of each other.” We were stunned. And then we laughed. We knew the book had gotten it right.

For a time, we were quiet and separate as we turned our thoughts around those words. That sentence fell like a bombshell because we knew it was true. The more we thought about it, the more we realized we had to stop what we now call the “invisible abuse” of belittling, negating, and undermining each other. We started by trying to be more aware of what we were saying, what words we used. We worked out a plan to monitor ourselves for negative behaviors, and negative thinking. In the beginning, as we tried to stop, we grew to realize our negativity seemed to have a life of its own. We then realized we were addicted to our negativity. This just had to stop.

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Marriage Issues, Appreciation and Gratitude, Eliminating Negativity, Invisible Abuse

Resolve Conflict - Divorce-Proof your Marriage in 6 Easy Steps!

Posted by Evie Shafner, LMFT on Jun 16, 2019 11:11:00 AM

There are so many positive suggestions about managing conflict and how to divorce-proof your marriage. As an Imago Relationship therapist for over 25 years, I have seen many marriages go the distance, and there are definitely some key things that the marriages that make it have in common. Here are 6 easy steps on how to resolve conflict and minimize any marriage issues you and your partner may have.

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Topics: Managing Conflict, Resolve Conflict, Marriage Issues

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